Currently, many parents complain that their children do not know how to do housework and are lazy to help their parents. Outside of school hours, I only know how to "hug" the TV or glue my eyes to the computer, smartphone. So the cause from?
On this issue, I had a quick conversation with Ms. Nghiem Thi Bich Diep, an English teacher in Hanoi to listen to her opinion both from the perspective of a teacher and from the perspective of an individual. Mother has two teenage children.
Many parents have the same thought that their children's cultural school schedule is closed all day, just like adults going to work, not to mention taking extra lessons, learning skills, learning talents, doing sports, participating in extracurricular activities. . Seeing their children work so hard, parents often do all the housework so that their children can focus on studying.
However, these thoughts of parents have inadvertently robbed children of many interesting things that only when children do it themselves, they can feel it. This also causes children to become lazy, dependent and dependent on others.
Ms. Nghiem Thi Bich Diep shared: "It is advisable for children to study, but at the same time, parents should also teach their children to do housework. Only then will children become independent. Children should be instructed to do housework from an early age to form a habit for them. The biggest benefit of letting children do housework is to help them feel the value of labor. opportunity to practice basic life skills and feel more confident".
As a teacher, Ms. Nghiem Thi Bich Diep said: "Humans evolve through work. The training of independence, self-discipline, adaptation and integration for children has a positive influence on children's health. in later adult life, in which, doing housework is one of the basic life skills that need to be noticed by parents early.
Therefore, there are two things I still stubbornly refuse to do: hire someone to clean the house and buy a dishwasher. Children need work to grow. I always train my two children to do housework such as sweeping, mopping, washing dishes, cooking, washing clothes, watering plants... helping parents even though the eldest daughter is in 10th grade, the youngest son in 6th grade as well. very busy with homework. These life skills will be important after high school so that your child can live independently."
"Take advantage of the time when children are on Tet holiday, study online at home due to the Covid-19 epidemic, parents should take the time to guide their children to do housework. When your children do, do not be too perfectionist, accept that things are not as they are. Desires may occur because children are not used to things, such as washing dishes and chopsticks that are not clean, breaking dishes, cooking mushy rice, washing dirty clothes, and not cleaning the house," Ms. Nghiem Thi Bich Diep reminded.
Children rely on helpers
According to Ms. Nghiem Thi Bich Diep, one of the mistakes of fathers and mothers is to hire domestic helpers when their children are grown up. With helpers, children often rely on them and refuse to do anything. "The reason why my two children know how to do all the common household chores such as cooking rice, washing dishes, cleaning the house, watering the plants, washing clothes... is because I don't hire a maid. Parents have to teach their children to do it. housework, teaching life skills, self-service skills.
In order for their children to share housework with their parents, parents should limit their children's exposure to technology devices, have a clear division of labor, and balance extra study time and entertainment for their children. Besides, parents need to know how to suggest, talk to their children, and encourage them when they do well," Ms. Diep advises.
Letting children do housework early is one of the most appreciated forms of children's education today. Other researchers have proven that, if children are taught to do housework early, it will have a very positive influence on children in the future, helping them practice character and learn many necessary skills in life.
Benefits from training children to do housework from a young age
Firstly, doing housework helps children form a responsible lifestyle towards the family.
The second benefit is forging independence for children, helping them to have independence, not to rely on or depend on others.
Third, doing housework helps children learn to live proactively and easily adapt to a new living environment if there are changes. Later, if children go to high school, university away from home, or even study abroad, they will be able to adapt to the new living environment.
The fourth benefit is discipline for children. Through the work that you give your child, he will learn how to complete it whether he likes it or not. As a result, children understand the need to be disciplined when encountering any obstacles in school/work or relationships.
Fifth, doing housework is a way to practice ingenuity and carefulness, essential characteristics for children when they grow up.
The sixth benefit is forging children in the habit of helping others. When you teach your children to work, they help form a caring mindset for those around them. When someone is in trouble, the child will actively ask for help and gradually become a helpful and kind person.
Seventh is housework for children with teamwork skills and coordination when working with others.
Eighth, doing housework makes children live with purpose. Labor helps children to form confidence, maturity and hard work. Even small things give children a sense of accomplishment and make others happy. Parents should also show praise and appreciation for what the child is trying to do. This will soon foster responsibility, healthy and meaningful life goals from a young age.
Finally, doing housework helps children exercise physically, be creative in work and also a form of relaxation after stressful study hours.
Children who do not do housework easily form a mentality of dependence, lack of sharing and fear of future collisions. Training children to do housework from an early age will help them to live responsibly, to be independent, to know how to adapt to all situations, to be disciplined, to be skillful and careful, to have good habits. Being used to helping others, having skills in teamwork, living with purpose has a positive influence on later adult life. These are basic and necessary life skills that need to be trained by parents early.